by Nancy Barbour
April 14, 2019
On Children (from The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran)
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of
Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though
they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their
own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls
dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life
goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with
His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s
hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves
also the bow that is stable.
Introduction
These words from Kahlil Gibran will frame what I have to share with you today. They provide an image of the child as a powerful human being. Though I am not a parent, I have spent most of the last 35 years as an Early Childhood Education scholar studying how children grow and learn and how families in the US and abroad support and care for their children. As an early childhood teacher educator, I advocate for best practice so that all children can succeed in the world. I have long been a champion for children, but my concern for what is happening on our border with young children being separated from their families makes me feel angry, helpless, and unsettled. I am well aware of the lifelong impact on children when they are separated from their families. And I worry about what we are doing to children who have already been up-rooted from their homes and countries, not having a say in their fate. I will share with you information on the United Nations Convention on the Rights of Children (UNCRC), a document completed in 1989 (an abbreviated version is what you have in your hand). This convention clearly defines children’s rights that are guaranteed. I will use this document to examine how the separation and warehousing of children on our southern border challenges these rights. I have struggled in preparing this service because I don’t want it to be a class lecture, but more of an unburdening and sharing of my passion to protect children’s rights. [Read more…]